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The Offender's Wife

Saturday, June 19, 2010

* special guest post by Karen Hammons

I am the wife of an accused sex offender. And while that statement could define me – it doesn't. It's just the place God has brought me, to do the work He has destined me to do. This one event could have destroyed me, my husband, our marriage and family. But the Enemy didn't succeed. Why? Because God gave hope and redemption in the middle of chaos.

The Offender's Wife is the work proclaiming that hope. It is a new, Christ-centered ministry with the purpose of reaching out to the wife of an accused or convicted sex offender. While we do not condone the actions of these men, we do offer the hope of redemption no matter the circumstance because of the love and power of Christ.

The information released to the public about sex offenders is not completely accurate. One thing found through research, is that 8% of Michigan's jailed sex offender population are KIDS from the ages of 9 - 16. That is 3,563 boys. While a few of those boys may be considered violent for the type of offense they have committed, the majority of them are in prison for having consensual sex with a peer (and other non-violent situations).(Here's the link to the article this came from.) Those boys are being given the same consequences as the violent adult offenders. The sex offender laws currently in place are not specific for the different types of offenses that occur. The majority in prison for this offense are not the violent, predatory type of offender.

Through my own personal crisis, I learned many things. I learned of God's passionate love for His children – the offended and offender. I learned that this subject is shoved under the rug many times. I learned the wives are made to feel they should hide in shame. I learned that God sees ALL types of sin the same and heals people from ALL types of sin.

My message to all of you is this – there IS hope. No matter the offense you did or received, God heals and redeems. His Word states that anyone who is in Him will NEVER be covered in shame (Psalm 34:5). His light shines the brightest in the darkness. The Enemy wants to shame us into hiding under a rug. That's when you have to make the decision to either believe the lies of the Enemy or the truth of God's Word. The Word gives you the power to fight off the Enemy's attempts to steal, kill, and destroy. God is enthralled with His girls. He is passionate about us. He is passionate about YOU. And I have learned the main reason He places His girls through difficult circumstances, is in order to draw us into a more intimate relationship with Him. He loves you girls. And when you begin to believe that truth, you will begin to live out that truth.

Don't be afraid, I've redeemed you. I've called your name. You're mine. When you're in over your head, I'll be there with you. I'd sell off the whole world to get you back, trade the creation just for you.  ~  Isaiah 43:1-4
If you get rid of unfair practices, quit blaming victims, quit gossiping about other people's sins, If you are generous with the hungry and start giving yourselves to the down and out, Your lives will begin to glow in the darkness, your shadowed lives will be bathed in sunlight. I will always show you where to go. I'll give you a full life in the emptiest of places.  ~  Isaiah 58:9-12
Therefore I am now going to allure here; I will lead her into the desert and speak tenderly to her. There I will give her back her vineyards, and will make the Valley of Achor a door of hope. There she will sing as in the days of her youth., as in the day she came up out of Egypt.  ~  Hosea 2:14-15

(c)  Karen Hammons
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Wanda said...

I think many would benefit from the ministry of the offender's wife. Sin is sin. And sinners are people that God loved so much to send His Son. And He did it without differeniating between the sins. We need more ministries that will deal with with real life issues. Issues that are often not pretty but God is our hope.

Karla Meachem said...


Thank you so much for your comment; appreciate you stopping by.

I completely agree with you; sin is sin AND we need more ministries like this one, that deal with REAL life issues.

Real issues. Real HOPE.

Glory to GOD!!!

Karen Hammons said...

Wanda - Thank you so much for your sweet words about The Offender's Wife ministry! I hope for The Offender's Wife to be a ministry that helps in breaking the ministry limits that the church places on itself. Blessings to you and yours!

Karla - Glory to God is right friend!! It's all for Him. I can't thank you enough for being a supportive voice in this new ministry. You are a sweet blessing to me and so many others.